Stop Sabotaging Yourself!

When it comes to change, humans struggle. When humans have painful life experiences, they struggle more. I find that in nearly all cases, my clients have some history of trauma. They learned at some point in their life that they didn’t matter or didn’t deserve happiness. By the time they end up in my office, they are miserable and hopeless when it comes to their weight and eating. So, I patch them up by doing a lot of work to resolve past issues and start to move forward, but inevitably, they struggle with this. For many, by the time we get to this point, we still have work to do around irrational beliefs that they aren’t worthy of happiness. While they may have let go of that pain from the past, it is often still present and looming in the present and future.  Out of that sense of not being worthy, they tend to sabotage their new efforts for success. Those old messages play havoc with the present and future. There is a reason why our windshield is bigger than our rearview mirror. When we spend too much time focused on where we have been, we can’t see where we are going and that can have a devastating impact on our future. Staying present in today and focusing on where we are headed rather than the past allows us to grow. So many of my clients are in the habit of talking themselves out of success before their journey even has a chance to begin. Those old messages of lack of worth are just a story. They are based on inaccurate information and if you continue to believe that story, you will never experience the life you truly deserve. So, dig deep. Do the hard work to let yourself out of the prison of your past to allow yourself a brighter and more fulfilling future!

Michelle Lewis

Michelle Lewis

Michelle Lewis has a Bachelor's degree in Psychology from Weber State University and a Master's degree in Social Work from the University of Utah. She has been working in the mental health field since 2001.

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