In her book The Burnout Cure, Julie Hanks gives thoughtful tips for ending burnout. It seems like many women experience burnout because they have a tendency to put everyone and everything before their own needs. They end up feeling angry, resentful and stressed. I think the cure that spoke to me most in Julie’s book was to give yourself permission for an “inspired no”. Many women are reluctant to say no to anything. They are so worried about what others think of them that they don’t stop to consider the physical and emotional toll all of those commitments are taking. We all have needs. When we don’t adequately attend to our own needs, we start to fray. Keeping ourselves balanced by making our needs a priority (within reason) can make the difference between bending and breaking. I like to use the example of an oxygen mask on an airplane. In the safety instructions, we are told to put our own mask on first before helping others. Why is this the case? If we don’t, how helpful will we be to our children or the elderly passenger next to us if we are passed out? I think this is a tremendous metaphor for life. Julie’s solid strategies help women navigate the difficult balance between being there for their loved ones and engaging in healthy self-care. Although her target audience is LDS women, I think women of any faith will find Julie’s book helpful. Give yourself permission to be human. I guarantee, you will feel so much relief!
How to purchase: The Burnout Cure
Julie de Azevedo Hanks, MSW, LCSW is a self-care evangelist, licensed therapist, relationship expert, media contributor, blogger, speaker, and songwriter with 20 year experience counseling LDS women, couples and families. In addition to owning Wasatch Family Therapy, LLC and serving as executive director, Hanks is an emotional health and relationship expert on TV and radio. She is a regular contributor on KSL TV’s Studio 5 and has appeared nationally on TLC, Discovery Health, and FOX News Channel. Her down-to-earth advice has also been featured in The Wall Street Journal, Cosmopolitan, CNN, Women’s Day, Women’s Health, Real Simple, Parenting, and others. Hanks writes for Answers, Sharecare, DailyStrength, and PsychCentral websites.