I constantly hear clients tell me that they don’t deserve to accomplish their goals. They aren’t worthy of having what they want. This is such a load of BS! I see it, but no amount of me trying to convince them otherwise works. Why is that? Negative Self-Talk. The way we talk to ourselves is the root at all of this for most of us. At some point in our lives, people have either told us, treated us or we have interpreted from the words of actions from others that we don’t deserve to be happy. One way or another we have learned that we aren’t worthy and that we don’t deserve good things. Why do we continue to listen?
I am here to challenge you to take your power back! Stop listening to the messages you get from others around your worth. If it is your own voice you hear now, challenge the validity of the things you say to yourself. What evidence do you have that you don’t deserve to be happy? How do we decide who does and doesn’t deserve happiness? What is so bad about you that you aren’t worth the happiness you might achieve? If you wouldn’t say these things to someone else, please don’t say them to yourself! Try to react to yourself with the same level of empathy and compassion you would give anyone else.
Make a list of everything you would do in your life if you felt like you did deserve happiness. Notice what would be different if you just acted “as if”. My challenge to you is to go through that list every day and start engaging in your life as if you do deserve to have the life you want. Even if you don’t believe it at first, by starting this process, eventually you will. You just need to give yourself permission.