How often do you complain about your weight? How much time and energy do you spend devoted to complaining about where you are right now? Stop! Getting upset about the way things are in the present is wasted effort. No amount of that is going to change what is happening right now in this moment. I have met many people over the years who hate where they are whether it be with weight, a job or a marriage, but don’t seem to be doing much to change their situation. Specifically looking at weight, how often have you felt upset about your body and decided to go on yet another diet? Has it worked? Probably not. Usually that is because we tend to try the same strategies over and over again. No wonder we get the same result!! Then, we really complain about the state of affairs. Instead of wasting so much time and energy complaining, do something different. Try changing your approach. What have you learned from the last 50 diets you have tried? Hopefully you have learned that they don’t work. They aren’t sustainable and they just leave you feeling hopeless. Instead, try changing your attitude and your thought process. By that I mean, stop telling yourself that you are hopeless and things can’t change. It is absolutely amazing what happens when we believe in our ability to achieve and then get out of our own way. The other piece of this puzzle is that we tend to give up when it gets hard. Due to our fears of failure, we stop trying as soon as we face an obstacle. People who achieve their goals in life do so because they have persevered. Real change takes sustained effort. It means not giving up until we have gotten where we want to be. Sometimes that means working smarter, not harder. Chronic dieters work very hard, but they tend to jump from one “magic bullet” to the next when, after a week or so, they haven’t achieved the results they want to see. I have read about authors, actors, artists and inventors who had to try hundreds and hundreds of times before they achieved their goal. The only thing they have in common is their refusal to throw in the towel. Next time you want to complain about where you are in your life, put that effort where it will actually help. Put it into action and stay with it when it gets difficult. What do you want to take action on today?