There are five elements to the cycle of sabotage: Trigger- the trigger is the catalyst or stimulus that begins the chain reaction. The trigger can be a person, place, memory, etc. For example, we will look at a trip to the mall to shop for clothing. As you know, shopping for clothing when you don’t […]
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Mirrors. Friend or Foe? Certainly they can be very helpful. They help you make sure you have successfully removed the spinach from your teeth, you can be sure there are no deodorant stains on your shirt and you can see that your outfit matches. What about the times when it becomes our nemesis? Who knew […]
It seems that for some people, no matter how fit they become or how well things are going in their lives, they consistently find something negative to focus on. No matter how great things are, they are never good enough. They hold their lives to an impossible standard of perfection and then berate themselves when […]
1. There aren’t enough hours in the day! We are all very busy people. How often have you heard someone complain by saying that they don’t have enough time to do things they would like to do? The average American spends 4 hours per day watching TV. What would you do with 4 more hours […]
Children are emotional sponges. They pick up on everything we do even when we don’t realize we are doing it. Like it or not, our children idolize us. They want to please us and imitation is the most sincere form of flattery right? Unfortunately, children are unable to differentiate our healthy and positive behaviors from […]
I can skip breakfast to lose weight, right? Wrong! A common misperception for many people is that the key to losing weight is skipping meals. This is problematic for several reasons. Skipping meals generally leads to overeating. When we have long periods of time between meals, the hormones responsible for hunger flood our system and […]
How often have you made a New Year’s resolution only to have it fail by February? You are definitely not alone. The concept of a New Year’s resolution sets you up to fail. Consider this, between Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, Christmas and New Year’s; we are bombarded with food, food, food, drink, excessive spending and stress. Resolving […]
Christmas is upon us once again. Every year, I am struck by the generosity I see in others this time of year. I see people donate money, time and much needed items to people who are grateful for clean socks and warm clothes. It makes me wonder why we don’t take opportunities all year long […]
I should lose weight. I should eat better. I should exercise. He or she should do that. Sound familiar? We use the word should quite a bit. Should is an off-limits word in my office because it is dangerous. When we use the word should, we create an expectation. This is mostly unconscious. We usually […]
Michelle Lewis has been working in the mental health field since 2001. She has a Bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Weber State University and a Master’s degree in Social Work from the University of Utah. She is passionate about helping others achieve their goals. Read more