Woah. That seems harsh! If you knew someone who made you promise after promise and never followed through, would you trust them? If you knew someone who consistently spoke critically about you and rarely gave positive feedback, would you want to do anything for them? I sure hope the answer is no! If you are like most of my clients, this sums up their relationship with their body and health. They consistently make promises to eat differently and take care of their body with sleep, less caffeine and more exercise. They also shame and criticize their body at every turn. No wonder things never change!! Their bodies don’t trust them. They don’t trust them to treat them with kindness and compassion. Their bodies don’t trust them for nourishment.
The first step in changing your relationship with food and being able to make lasting changes is healing your relationship with your body and mind. How do you do this? First, start looking at where this pattern began. When did you start struggling to follow through? What experiences led you to believe you either didn’t deserve to have the things you want or that you didn’t have what it took to get them? What self-limiting beliefs keep you stuck?
Then, using powerful therapies like EMDR or ART, you can quickly get to the core of those experiences and create healing. By addressing those earlier experiences, you can change the connections you have made in your brain around the self-limiting beliefs that keep you in a cycle of self-sabotage.
Using these two therapies, you can also interrupt the connections you have made around food as an emotional coping tool and exercise as a punishment for “bad” eating. Until you fully address the pain that has caused you to feel negatively about yourself, you will remain stuck on this roller coaster. If you are interested in learning more about EMDR or ART, contact me today.